Christel Augsburg

For something that happens to a significant portion of the human population on a fairly regular basis, orgasm is remarkably under-explained. We know it feels good. We know it can be elusive. What most of us don't know is what is actually happening neurologically when it occurs, which turns out to be considerably more interesting than the gap in our education would suggest. More than 30 distinct brain regions are active during orgasm. THIRTY. To put that in perspective, your brain is working...

Many women come off hormonal contraception expecting to feel more like themselves. What they don't expect is to feel, at least for a while, like a stranger in their own body. A libido that behaves differently than anticipated. Arousal that feels muted, or unpredictable, or simply absent in ways it wasn't before. Sometimes more desire than they've felt in years. Sometimes considerably less. Both are normal. Neither is permanent. And neither has anything to do with something being wrong. What's...

Most women in long relationships notice it at some point. Not a crisis, not a rupture. Just a gradual sense that desire has become less automatic than it once was. The wanting is still there, or partly there, but it requires more from you now. More conditions. More intention. More of something you can't quite name. The instinct is to treat this as a problem with the relationship, or with yourself. Neither is usually right. What changes in long relationships is the environment desire lives in....